Why debating is just kicking dirt

"You have not converted a man because you have silenced him." -


I am a naturally .

I like to learn, I like to improve.

I think sometimes my turns into in certain cases.

What does being curios and suspicious mean?

It means you ask lots of questions and look for .

Debating is not answer-looking

I've been getting dragged into some lately online and I really need to stop.

Debating is what the does when he feels the made a bad call.

Is that ever productive?

The manager is not looking for answers. He wants the ump to see things his way.

The ump isn't trying to understand the managers perspective. They are simply debating. There is no answer-looking going on. There is no benchmarking, solution focused conversation taking place. sees things one way. The other person sees things another way. And the are both convinced they are right.

Still interested in answers and solutions

I'm still interested in answers and solutions. I still want to learn. I'm just not interested in debating. It's not productive. Most people would rather what they think they know instead of implementing what it is they do know.

Many people also love to debate minutiae.

Ramit writes on his blog, Iwillteachyoutoberich.com:

If you’re below the age of 125, you have heard people saying one of more of these about :

  • Don’t eat before you go to bed because fat doesn’t burn as efficiently
  • If you cut your carb intake and raise your , you can lose lots of weight quickly
  • If you eat fruit in the morning, it’s easy on your and your will speed up

I always laugh at these things because they’re so absurd. Maybe they’re correct, or maybe not, but that’s not really the point.

The point is that we love to debate .

We love to debate details at the completely wrong level of analysis.

When it comes to weight loss, 99.99% of people only need to know 2 things: Eat healthier and exercise more. Only Olympic athletes need to know more.

I see this happening more and more with real estate when it comes to things like , lead generation, lead conversion, website and ROI.

People want to debate minutiae of it all. I don't.

I want answers and solutions. I want .

I don't want to hear opinions or guesses or theory.

I want to implement and get results.

Why do we love to debate minutiae?

As Ramit puts it,"...we feel like we really expressed ourselves, and it’s a good feeling. The problem is that the feeling is totally illusory when it comes to getting anything done."

Sounds to me like the opposite of being a Productivity Junkie.

Do you find yourself in too many debates, but not enough conversations looking for solutions?

What will you do when you find yourself debating minutiae?